Young adults are usually the guests at Thanksgiving dinner rather than the hosts but years of rolling out of bed at 1 p.m. on the day off from school and work (hopefully!) may not have been the best prep for being a good guest while in your 20s. While it’s wonderful not to have to prepare, clean and store/unpack household items when you attend someone else’s home for the holiday, keep in mind that being a guest does require some preparation. This guide on how to be a good Thanksgiving Day guest will breakdown everything from what to bring, what to leave at home to finally getting seated with the adults.
Bring A Gift to Thanksgiving Dinner
It’s always a good idea to bring something that contributes to the day when invited to Thanksgiving. A mistake many 20-somethings make is assuming a gift is unnecessary at a dinner hosted by their parents. Instead, elevate your role in your parent’s eyes by either bringing something for the table, such as flowers or a set of new, nice cloth napkins or something for the dinner itself. Wine, roasted spiced nuts or even a desert option can be a welcome gesture when being a guest to any Thanksgiving dinner.
Always Act Like a Grown Up
Etiquette has always been a delicate subject, so much so that Emily Post made a career out of it. When it comes to what not to bring to Thanksgiving dinner it’s best to err on the conservative side. The list could range anywhere from dressing a little more dressy to attending without a brand new boyfriend or girlfriend.
Conversation topics can become another gray area on Thanksgiving for young adults. Adults tend to press for information on relationships, school or work that may be too heavy for your taste. Instead of snapping on a snooping relative, simply make a lighthearted joke – “Well, no one’s returned my glass slipper yet,” – and move on to a different topic.
Stop Sitting at the Kid’s Table at Dinner
File this moment under just starting out in life: you arrive to Thanksgiving dinner and after greeting aunts and uncles and cousins you didn’t even know you had, you’re pointed in the direction of the kid’s table. Needless to say, this lowered, easily accessible for toddlers table is not exactly what you had in mind while you picked out your Thanksgiving contribution of a bottle of wine.
The best plan of action is to have an honest conversation with the host about the seating situation. Even if a host has already laid out a table setting, simply having a conversation can help ensure the kid’s table is out of the picture at future holiday dinners.
Visit tomorrow for the next post on surviving Thanksgiving in your 30’s. It promises to feature lots of screaming children, hiding of ugly couch cushions and pulling bakeware out from storage!
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